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Oct. 16th, 2008 12:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
It's taken a while but I feel like I'm pretty comfortable dressing my body. I mean, I really do get it: my sense of style, my unique shape etc. Unfortunately one of the ways that I've coped with my size is to allow myself the adjective "cute". Not beautiful, not fashionable or stylish, but "cute". About a month ago I had gotten dressed and ready to go out and asked Ole "Do I look cute?". His reply pissed me off. "Honey..." he says, "...a 35 yo woman can't be cute. You look nice." I was so mad. First of all I'll be 34 in December. 34!!! He added two whole years to my age! Secondly I paniced. If I'm not cute, then what am I? Nice? Admitting to looking "nice" means jumping back into the pool with all the size 10 - 34B's out there which inevitably leads to not-as-nice-looking-as-them land. Sigh.
That conversation plus a co-workers comment about removing her labret when she turns 30 (next year) plus a recent episode of what not to wear leaves me really really really wondering if I'm (and I can't believe that this phrase is coming out of my mouth) dressing appropriately for my age. I'm really wondering about this. I buy stuff online all the time and it looks super cute in the pictures so I order it, it arrives I wear it only once because even though it looks fine, something's not quite right. I think if I were being honest - that's what it is. Bleh... And frankly - fat adds extra cuteness, like babies and kids. If/when I shed some pounds, I'll look different. I'll look more my age - like a woman in her mid-30's.
I don't know what to do. for a long time I've had a fantasy of finding one of those personal stylist people who can go shopping with me and help me find an outfit that rocks is just a little bit alt and appropriate for my age. If you know someone - hook me up.
That conversation plus a co-workers comment about removing her labret when she turns 30 (next year) plus a recent episode of what not to wear leaves me really really really wondering if I'm (and I can't believe that this phrase is coming out of my mouth) dressing appropriately for my age. I'm really wondering about this. I buy stuff online all the time and it looks super cute in the pictures so I order it, it arrives I wear it only once because even though it looks fine, something's not quite right. I think if I were being honest - that's what it is. Bleh... And frankly - fat adds extra cuteness, like babies and kids. If/when I shed some pounds, I'll look different. I'll look more my age - like a woman in her mid-30's.
I don't know what to do. for a long time I've had a fantasy of finding one of those personal stylist people who can go shopping with me and help me find an outfit that rocks is just a little bit alt and appropriate for my age. If you know someone - hook me up.
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Date: 2008-10-15 07:41 pm (UTC)I am a disciple of Stacy & Clinton!
well, can I still be a disciple if I don't always follow the rules myself? I at least KNOW the rules...
I am also early-30s and to hell with age-appropriate. I mean, if you LOOK younger than your age, then dress appropriately to THAT age. And depending on what you're doing. If it's business and you want to look professional, dress real-age-appropriate. If you're partying with people younger than you and everyone already thinks you're that same age, dress that age-appropriate.
I am 32. I get regularly mistaken for 22. Yay fountain of youth genes!
I also think you should have a variety of clothes that suits both ages (your real and your perceived-by-others), and which suits multiple needs (business, partying, casual, etc). why limit ourselves?!
Let's go shopping sometime.
Today I'm going to buy red shoes.
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Date: 2008-11-05 03:37 am (UTC)PS: Was checking out yellow pumps online today. Droool.
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Date: 2008-10-15 07:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-05 03:38 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-05 04:38 pm (UTC)PS - LJ junkie? Who you calling an LJ junky, huh? *shiftyeyes*
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Date: 2008-10-15 08:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-05 03:39 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-10-15 09:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-05 03:43 am (UTC)It's a fine line.
As for sexy in yer 20's... I beg to differ! May I draw your attention to exhibit A -> Sex in the City? :D
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Date: 2008-10-16 12:39 am (UTC)As for "age appropriate" - are you happy? Are you having fun? I figure as long as you're not dressing in "adult baby" clothes or plaid polyester sansabelt pants and a lemon yellow polo shirt, you're fine.
Of course, I'm 40 and still wear my cloak to work on rainy days. So I may not be one to talk. :)
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Date: 2008-11-05 03:44 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-05 05:42 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-10-16 01:23 am (UTC)But sheesh, the nobody's cute after 30? That's really judgemental and sucky. Dude. I'd like to think my dimples have not been downgraded from cute to nice. That would be just lame.
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Date: 2008-11-05 03:47 am (UTC)This shit never ends, does it?
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Date: 2008-11-05 04:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-11-06 03:52 pm (UTC)But "age-appropriate"? Trust me girl, you're way too young to be worrying about that. Enjoy life, yourself, your youth. You've still got it, in lots of ways.